There are two dilemmas that rattle
the human skull: How do you hang on to someone who won't
stay? And how do you get rid of someone who won't go?
Political promises are much like marriage vows.
They are made at the beginning of the relationship between
candidate and voter, but are quickly forgotten.
He that hath a wife and children hath given
hostages to fortune.
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of
friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
One of the first things a relationship therapist
learns is that couples argue to burn up energy that could be
used for something else. In fact, arguments often serve the
purpose of using up energy, so that the couple do not have
to take the courageous, creative leap into an unknown they
fear. Arguing serves the function of being a zone of
familiarity into which you can retreat when you are afraid
of making a creative breakthrough.
Love is blind, but marriage restores its sight.
I have yet to hear a man ask for advice on how to
combine marriage and a career.
Someone asked me why women don't gamble as much
as men do, and I gave the commonsensical reply that we don't
have as much money. That was a true and incomplete answer.
In fact, women's total instinct for gambling is satisfied by
Some people claim that marriage interferes with
romance. There's no doubt about it. Anytime you have a
romance, your wife is bound to interfere.
The right to marry whoever one wishes is an
elementary human right compared to which "the right to
attend an integrated school, the right to sit where one
pleases on a bus, the right to go into any hotel or
recreation area or place of amusement, regardless of one's
skin or color or race" are minor indeed. Even political
rights, like the right to vote, and nearly all other rights
enumerated in the Constitution, are secondary to the
inalienable human rights to "life, liberty and the pursuit
of happiness" proclaimed in the Declaration of Independence;
and to this category the right to home and marriage
Any one must see at a glance that if men and
women marry those whom they do not love, they must love
those whom they do not marry.
Never trust a husband too far, nor a bachelor too
There is nothing nobler or more admirable than
when two people who see eye to eye keep house as man and
wife, confounding their enemies and delighting their
All weddings are similar, but every marriage is
Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up.
What you are as a single person, you will be as a
married person, only to a greater degree. Any negative
character trait will be intensified in a marriage
relationship, because you will feel free to let your guard
down -- that person has committed himself to you and you no
longer have to worry about scaring him off.