Flirting Tips

FOR HER

  1. Make sure you're feeling and looking good. Self-confidence shows and attracts. So if you are having a bad hair day, for example, don't flirt.
  2. Make eye contact. Across the room, from under your lashes, over your shoulder, sideways, sometimes even a direct, long stare. Great non-verbal ways of saying you're interested. A slight smile with it works even better.
  3. Touch. Lightly, non-sexually, casually, but often. For example, touch his shoulder lightly to thank him if he gets your drink, hold his arm and laugh at his joke, tap his knee to make a point.
  4. Laugh. If you have a laugh that can crack glass, then smile. At yourself, at his jokes... If you know how to tell a joke without botching up the punchline, crack some of your own. Be careful, though, not to be too witty at his expense - men can't laugh at themselves beyond a point.
  5. Smell good. Remember that Al Pacino movie, Scent of a Woman? It's true, nothing is more tantalising that the sudden whiff of a great feminine fragrance. And remember, unless you're Madonna or Zsa Zsa Gabor, most women can't carry off the heavy musks. Also, invest in a nice-smelling shampoo - so when you toss your hair...mmmmm!

FOR HIM

  1. Dress well. You may think it's unmanly to worry about clothes, but that is one of the first things girls notice - the way you are dressed. Obviously "stud" dressing - tight jeans, lots of leather and metal studs, literally - is a turn-off.
  2. Be clean. Many girls look at a man's hands to check him out. Clean, trimmed fingernails, clean hair and a nice after-shave lotion - great combination.
  3. Listen. Girls like guys who like them to talk, because they love to talk.
  4. Keep your hands to yourself. You may be experience intense sexual attraction, but apart from letting it slip past occasionally in your eyes or touching her in a friendly way, don't constant stare or paw. She wants to be seen as a person not a collection of body parts.
  5. Be attentive. A great substitute for natural-born charm. See that her drink is always topped up, notice if she wants to sit down or is feeling tired. Help her with that chair/ car/ rain puddle. And pay for the dinner. Leave splitting the bill for when you get to know each other better.